A Jewel For My Jar

My good friend Jayley turned me on to a great rewards system to use with the kiddos. A jewel jar system. The "rules" are simple- you may (key word: may) earn jewels for taking initiative with extra chores, handling sibling disputes with love, grace, and mercy, and what ever else I deem worthy of earning jewels (ie- "first kiddo to fall asleep tonight earns 2 jewels!" Lol).

This rewards system is a win-win! It encourages the children to set goals (fill your jar= choose money or reach in the "grab bag"), learn how to achieve goals, builds Godly character by making better choices---and for me, this system requires me to pay special attention to each child and be on the watch for opportunities to reward jewels. **I do not give jewels for EVERY situation, They may just earn a compliment and some mama lovin's!! :)

As far as discipline goes, this system has also been very effective! For instance, if the kids are fighting/arguing, I'll remind then that if they do not settle in love, grace and mercy, I will take (said number) jewels from their jar. Again, very effective. Lol

My four and six year old's have asked for jewels and I've told them , "No, no...you can't ASK for jewels for good behavior/choices, I will take notice and OFFER them to you." As I explain to their little minds the concept of the jewel jar reward system is to build good character in them (to do what's right...even when no one is looking), this concept of character growth is strengthened in me too!

Although sometimes it would be nice to get (immediate) "rewards" for the "good/godly/right" choices we make as (Christian) parents/wives/friends, as adults, we know that just isn't gonna happen. Because we aim to please and obey God, we CHOOSE to do what is righteous.

I do what's right, because at the end of the day, it really does feel good! I don't lose sleep and I know I am be a living example to my kids. This is the sacrifice I make for my children, my family, the people I influence in my life, and MOST importantly, for Love. Capital "L"...for my Love for God. He died for me...it's the least I can do. :)

<3 Be blessed!